If you don’t know anything about me, please note that I am a huge Beyoncé fan. That woman, in my eyes, can do no wrong. Not only is she an amazing performer, but she always seems to have her ish together. One of the greatest compliments I’ve received on multiple observations is that I always seem to keep it together. Even my students have asked me, “Miss, do you ever get mad? Like, do you ever yell?” Honestly, my students can be having a rave in my class, and I will always keep this face because, once they see how their grades are affected, they’ll know how to behave next time.
I’ve only met Bey one time, but I think her demeanor rubbed off on me. Just kidding. I think it’s because I’ve learned that you really don’t have control over anything. If a student wants to learn, they’re going to take the necessary steps to do so. Don’t get me wrong, I have standards for my students, and it definitely took me a while to build my classroom culture, but my students are at an age where they already know what’s at stake. If I have to work harder than them to verify that they pass 7th grade, I’m doing this teaching thing all wrong. Even when my students have pissed me off or I really want to cry because they’re not progressing at the expected pace, I’ve learned to maintain the facade of having everything in control. That’s where the inner Beyoncé kicks in. No amount of screaming, crying, or throwing a tantrum will change anything, so why bother expending that extra energy?
I’m only a second year teacher, but my advice to any new teacher is to channel your inner Beyoncé (or any other rockstar). Even when your lesson plan is all wrong, your students have no idea what’s going on, and you’re having a bad hair day, keep it together. The kids can sense fear and discomfort. Don’t scream, yell, or throw rulers at the students (no matter how bad you may want to). Pull on your big girl/boy pants, put on your poker face, and cry when you’re alone. Lol. You’re the adult, and you’re in control.
You’ve got this!